1. You ask me about sex. That energy too belongs to God and
through meditation it too can be transformed. No energy is bad but there
can, of course, be wrong use of energy. When sex energy flows upwards
it turns into brahmacharya (celibacy). It is good that you are becoming
detached from it but that isn't enough. You have to go through it to
transform it, rejection just leaves you arid and dry! It is true you are
not alone in your sex life but sex is not essentially of the body at
all but a modification of the mind. If the mind is completely
transformed it affects the other person too, and one who is related so
intimately is quickly affected. Keep in mind that: there should be no
calculated ill-will towards sex - cultivated detachment is useless: stay
aware whilst making love, be a witness in this situation; if one can
stay in a state of meditation and right-mindfulness then the sex energy
can be successfully transformed. Brahmacharya is a complete science in
itself and many doors to bliss open on that path. Still, the very first
thing is a friendly attitude towards all one's energies. Enmity towards
them does not lead to spiritual revolution but to self-destruction.
2. Don't be afraid of sexual desire. Because fear is the beginning of defeat. Accept it,nit is and it has to be. Of course, you must know it and recognize it, be aware of it, bring it out of the unconscious into the conscious mind. You cannot do this if you condemn it because condemnation leads to repression and it is repression that pushes desires and emotions into the unconscious. Really, it is because of repression that the mind is divided into conscious and unconscious, and this division is at the root of all conflict, and it is this division that prevents man from being total - and without integration there is no way to peace, bliss and freedom. So meditate on sexual desire. Whenever the desire arises, watch it mindfully. Do not resist it, do not escape from it, encountering it leads you to unique experiences. And whatever you have learned or heard about celibacy - throw it once and for all into the dustbin, for there is no other way than this of reaching to brahmacharya.
3. The repression of sex has choked your life with anger, its smoke pervades your whole personality.
2. Don't be afraid of sexual desire. Because fear is the beginning of defeat. Accept it,nit is and it has to be. Of course, you must know it and recognize it, be aware of it, bring it out of the unconscious into the conscious mind. You cannot do this if you condemn it because condemnation leads to repression and it is repression that pushes desires and emotions into the unconscious. Really, it is because of repression that the mind is divided into conscious and unconscious, and this division is at the root of all conflict, and it is this division that prevents man from being total - and without integration there is no way to peace, bliss and freedom. So meditate on sexual desire. Whenever the desire arises, watch it mindfully. Do not resist it, do not escape from it, encountering it leads you to unique experiences. And whatever you have learned or heard about celibacy - throw it once and for all into the dustbin, for there is no other way than this of reaching to brahmacharya.
3. The repression of sex has choked your life with anger, its smoke pervades your whole personality.
